Last week I wrote to urge those of us (myself included!) who drive ourselves hard, and sometimes find ourselves drained and lacking motivation, to ease up on the struggle. (If you missed it, scroll down to the December 4 post below.)
If you have started to focus on the ideas in that post, I hope you are feeling a shift already.
And, if you want to take things a step deeper, I invite you to do some end-of-year reflecting in the coming weeks.
Why?
Because when we create space for refection we learn so much. And, that learning will impact the new year — and 2020 will be here soon!
This is a great time to pull out your favorite journal and take a few minutes each day for reflection.
Here are some good questions to explore
1. What are 10 things I can celebrate that I accomplished this year?
We typically rush from day to day and week to week without slowing down to acknowledge ourselves. This is a perfect time to reflect on the year and take note of things — big and small — that you can celebrate. And be sure to note why each was so terrific. (This is great brain training!)
2. What can I release or replace to open space for more growth, healing and happiness in 2020?
Simply ask this question and let yourself write freely. You may note insights related to habits, patterns, relationships, allocations of time and energy, obligations you’ve tolerated, and more.
Surprises may show up in your rambling notes, as well as issues you know need attention. Don’t overlook small things that may be easy to brush off as unimportant. Those “small things” can have a big impact on your wellbeing.
And it’s worth including reflections about how those things have limited you, been a challenge, or caused unnecessary struggle or pain. Do you realize that you feel drained after every conversation with a particular person? Can you describe the consequences each time your work stretches into the evening hours?
These observations will help you to be clear about changes you want to make in the new year.
3. Where can I find support or resources to help me make the changes I want?
If you have been reading my Big Ideas for a while, you know how strongly I advocate for asking for help and support. This is typically hard for many accomplished women (and men). What I have learned, and what I see with my clients all the time, is that reaching out for help is the path to faster, easier resolution of all sorts of challenges.
Write about all the options you can explore for support.
4. Imagine December 2020, and what your future self will report back to you.
Envision the future you, a year from now. Ask your future-self about how she grew and changed over the year. What did she do to get support? What actions did she take? What did it feel like to commit to her growth and expansion over time?
You can also ask:
What results did she experience?
What is she celebrating?
What advice can she offer you?
Taking a little time each day for a reflection practice will make the last weeks of 2019 your onramp to a great new year.
Leave a message, or email me, to let me know what this process has brought to light for you. And if you added more questions for reflection, I’d love to hear those, too.
